how you want to live life

How will you measure your life? Don’t reserve your best business thinking for your career. By Clayton M. Christensen

First, how can I be sure that I’ll be happy in my career? Second, how can I be sure that my relationships with my spouse and my family become an enduring source of happiness? Third, how can I be sure I’ll stay out of jail?

How to be sure we find happiness in our careers-The powerful motivator in our lives isn’t money; it’s the opportunity to learn, grow in responsibilities, contribute to others, and be recognized for achievements. 

Allocate your resources- if value the relationships to family then invest in them. 

You will have more learning opportunities if you realize everyone can teach you, even those who aren’t as smart as you

. Generally, you can be humble only if you feel really good about yourself—and you want to help those around you feel really good about themselves,  too. When we see people acting in an abusive, arrogant, or demeaning manner toward others, their behavior almost always is a symptom of their lack of self-esteem. They need to put someone else down to feel good about themselves.

it’s easier to hold to your principles 100% of the time than it is to hold to them 98% of the time. If you give in to “just this once,” based on a marginal cost analysis, you’ll regret where you end up.

the metric by which God will assess my life isn’t dollars but the individual people whose lives I’ve touched

If you want your kids to have strong self-esteem and confidence that they can solve hard problems, those qualities won’t magically materialize in high school. You have to design them into your family’s culture—and you have to think about this very early on. Like employees, children build self-esteem by doing things that are hard and learning what works 

Families have cultures, just as companies do. Those cultures can be built consciously or evolve inadvertently. 

worry about the individuals you have helped become better people

Little Things Are Important By Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin

The question is not one of managing time, but one of managing ourselves with the time we have. Each minute is a little thing and yet, with respect to our personal productivity, to manage the minute is the secret of success.

Take care of yourself- health and your mental well-being.  Our bodies are truly the result of what we eat, what we think about, and the exercise we receive.

Relationship with others- have patience and long suffering, do you remember the smile, the compliment, the positive comment, and the word of encouragement?

Relationship with God- god has given us everything to develop his attributes.  We are told to become perfect as he is.

The little things add up to be the big things.  The desire to develop spiritual qualities will lead us away from other unrighteous desires.

Is your passion greater than your fear?

You won't just be happier when you follow your passionate career path; you'll be better at it. IDEO's General Manager Tom Kelley quotes author Jim Collins who identifies a Venn diagram in every career path – the overlapping intersection of what you're good at, what you're born to do, what people will pay you to do, and finding a happy group of co-workers with whom to work. In the pursuit of self-discovery, Kelley suggests keeping a laboratory notebook tracking the happiest moments in life to discover our own true passions.

Jim Hawkins and entrepreneur made a commitment to always eat breakfast and dinner with his kids.  You don’t have to put in long hours and work really hard.  You need to make right choices Any organization that focuses on making better daily decisions will have the opportunity for broad and deep success.

Listen to your own voice and not others.  Believe, Trust, and Embrace in who you are.

Deconstructing your Fears

1) If you pursue your calling with discipline, intentionally, and the help of fellow travelers,

what are the chances that your worst case scenario will really happen?

The chances are very low if I do all those things.  It's like having a seat belt on.  I have all the precautions in place.

2. As you look at your list of fears, what themes emerge? What is at the core of what you

really fear?   The judgment or disapproval of others, and Embarrassment, the core of what I really fear is not being successful like I think I can be.  I hate having dreams crushed. 

3. What is the risk of taking no action – not following your calling? How do you plan to

deal with fear when it pops up on your entrepreneurial journey?

The risk is never knowing what it was truly like to strike out because I never dare picked up the bat.  The idea of always wondering what would of happened if I would have diligently tried.  How I plan to deal with fear when it pops up, is give it some attention to see if there is some caution I should exercise while carrying out my plan.  After realize what's the worst that could happen if it comes true.